Friday, March 24, 2006

Survived: 6 months of Marriage

Today P and I celebrate our 6 month wedding anniversary. I say celebrate, but really I will just post it on here, and it will be forgotten. Yesterday, driving home in the car, P and I had the following conversation:

Me: 'Do you know what tomorrow is?'
P: 'No...what is it?
Me: 'You don't know?'
P: 'No...tell me?'
Me: 'I shouldn't have to tell you...you should know?'
P: 'Well I don't know....so tell me.'
Me: 'No.'
P: 'What's the date tomorrow?'
Me: 'What's the date today?'
P: 'Is tomorrow the 24th?'
Me: 'Yes'
P: 'O.K...how many months are we at?'

You can't help but laugh, because I do this every month around the 24th. I get excited that we have survived another month of marriage. All the articles and books I read state that surviving the first year of marriage is the hardest, so I am thrilled to get through another month without any major divorce-type issues!

I personally believe that the first 5 years of marriage are going to be hard, since I know that the divorce rate for couples in their twenties is a lot higher than it use to be 15 years ago. I always hear about young couples who split up after only a few years of marriage and I ask myself 'how does that happen?' - although I know it does. I have been super cautious of this so far in our marriage, as I definitely don't want to be one of those people who wakes up one morning and wonders 'where did we go wrong?'

Judging from the first 6 months, we are no where near that. So far it has been fun. It's been busy for us, but we are relaxed and just enjoying life, which is what I think is what we both knew would happen.

Although we won't be having a major celebration tonight, internally I am pretty happy to be at the 6-month mark. Hopefully after the first year of marriage I will stop counting each month....I don't want to be like those mothers who knows exactly how many months old their children are when they're past the age of two (perhaps this will change when I actually become a parent). In three and half years I don't want to be caught saying 'oh...we've been married 42 months.' However, I do fully expect that I will know the exact number of months we have been married from now until eternity, and I am sure I will continue to quiz P around the 24th of every month, just to keep him on his toes.

Oh the joys of being newlyweds -- I know....we are still in the sappy love phase of marriage, but if wouldn't bother me a bit if this phase lasted forever -- it's good to be happy...and god knows French makes me miserable, so I will take this special occasion and try to milk it for all it's worth today -- because I can!

1 comments:

Procrastinatrix said...

congrats! We are at almost 6 months.....in a week or so.

I think a lot of people really really really want to get married and don't think about the fact that this is a life long committment-they want the wedding pictures but as soon as something goes wrong they bail.

I am sure that Des and I will go through our rough spots, but as long as you approach it with an open mind, you will have a great marriage!